Ugghhh…..I’m tired, hitting snooze…..I can’t believe I hit snooze again, what’s wrong with me?…..will I never be able to commit to myself?……I look like crap……I didn’t give myself time to make a healthy breakfast, again!!!…….I’m never going to lose the extra weight I gained ……my car is such a mess, how hard is it to keep clean, it’s like 10 square feet – I’m so messy……my desk is not much better, I’m going to clean it now……what the…….I’ll clean tomorrow, I really am messy, or am I just “a mess”?……I don’t think i have the energy to get groceries…..no energy? pah, suck it up…..I look really chunky…..double chin AND wrinkles, is that even fair?….why is my hair so bad?……am I ruining my children?…..my wardrobe sucks… why am I still up?….I even failed at getting to bed at a decent time…..how hard is it to go to bed????…I’m crap.
Has anyone ever been as relentlessly mean to you as your own voice in your own head?
So much for loving yourself!! Can anyone actually do that with the mean girl chatter that never relents.
My chatter is what I started this post with.
And I truly believe that I’m a pretty awesome person.
Hard to believe with that tirade going off.
There are probably women that you know of that to look at them you would never guess that they have their own monologue going off in their own heads. Surely it’s not happening to them??
It sure is.
So, what are we going to do about it ladies?
Firstly, you have to be aware of it. You cannot correct a voice you have accepted.
Secondly, don’t accept it.
You will no longer be resigned to this way of speaking to yourself.
I’m not going to tell you to insert positive affirmation instead. That is one solution, but unless you truly believe the affirmation it falls flat and becomes something else that gets caught up in the negative chatter in your head.
Instead, try just noticing the thought. For example: “I notice I think I look like crap.” I find if I reframe my thought in this way, as opposed to just having the thought and accepting it as fact, my mind will often come to my defence. And if the thought doesn’t come naturally, I can purposely find something kind to say to myself.
If a friend was beating up on herself you would defend her. It’s time to put more attention on defending yourself.
It will take work. Being mindful always does. And you are worth it.
Hugs, Vicky xxx