It scares me to think I could so easily live this same year 10 more times. Be in the same place in 10 years from now!
It won’t be exactly the same. Kids may have moved out. They may have moved back. We’ll probably have different cars.
But what if I’m the same?? What if I’m still so outwardly focused on my kids and hubby that I’m still keeping my deepest desires packed tightly away?
Because it’s so easy to keep away from focusing on ourselves. If there isn’t someone to feed or generally be there for then we have our handheld gadgets.
When our minds start to daydream, maybe about ourselves visiting a place in the world we want to know more about, or hanging a piece of art that we are so proud of doing ourselves, or finishing a course that will allow us to get a different job, these thoughts are wonderful.
It sucks though when we trail off from the daydream and talk reality with ourselves. The pain of not having those things or not knowing how to get those things are the thoughts we want to, and can easily eradicate.
Just pick up a smart phone.
Facebook, Instagram, You Tube, Online Games……..they’re all there ready to take away our pain.
When I don’t like where my mind is going it has become instinctual to reach for my phone and scroll Instagram. I feel like I was given an extreme version of the gift of keeping myself away from discomfort.
The feed of mind numbing pictures never runs out. What sweet relief.
It will keep my mind busy until I have a purpose again like cooking for the family or driving to pick someone up.
And here’s the problem. Whenever my mind is being numbed to avoid dealing with yucky thoughts, it can’t come up with those coaching questions that will get my booty into gear to get moving forwards.
What’s important to me?
What small thing can I do to move forward today?
It takes conscious effort to think this way and have results.
But this thinking doesn’t come naturally. It takes trained effort for it to become habitual. And you can do it!
Decide now on the habit you will form over the next few weeks to keep you off your electronics and in your life so you can figure out what you need to do next to get you closer to a dream of yours.
Keep if light, keep it simple, keep it achievable.
Naturally, I would recommend having a life coach help you quickly get your thoughts and feelings straight – call me :), but you can do it by yourself too.
Do the thought work. You’re worth it.
Hugs,
Vicky xxx