I almost feel like I’m cheating telling you this one – it’s so simple, and so true.
Our brains are so wonderfully efficient and fantastic that they allow us to go through daily life without interrupting us to figure out how to put breakfast together, or drive the car, or get to work. The vast majority of what we do on a daily basis is unconscious behaviour.
It’s so clever – until we have something that is no longer working for us.
It’s so, so, so common for us all – I’ve had lots of clients that have done this – to not look at what is bothering us on a deeper level. On some issue or another we’ve all woken up day after day thinking the same thing and waiting for something or someone to change our circumstance. And most often nothing does change.
The fastest thing you can change is how you think about something. Try it.
Rain makes me grumble. But, it makes my friend very happy. Same rain. Two very different outlooks.
As I’m kind and wouldn’t want to make my friend grumble, I shall take the task of changing my thinking. I can easily choose to feel differently about the rain. I can see it as life giving, rainbow making and wonderful in its own way. Now I come to think of it, I actually do like to sit outside, undercover of a gazebo, on a warm rainy day – but as I rarely get to experience this my mind doesn’t easily go there.
Instead of trying to ignore or avoid your nemesis, try changing your perspective.
Try this exercise of experimenting with different perspectives. For example, if I were to look at rain from the perspective of “an umbrella” then I’d LOVE the rain, I’d have been waiting excitedly for this moment. If I were to look at the rain from the perspective of chalk on sidewalk then I’d find it sad because it would wash the chalk away.
Here are some perspectives to try on with something you are having difficulty with:
Your grandma (what would she think). A dog and a cat (cos we know they must have different perspectives). A 3 year old. A bridesmaid. A pair of underwear. A walking cane.
The point of the exercise is to see that you can have many different perspectives on any one thing and you can choose how you want to see something going forward.
Let me know in the comments how you get on. In the meantime;
Think about a change in perspective. You’re worth it.
Hugs, Vicky xx