The mean girl we are talking about is the one in your own head. Also known as Inner Critic, Saboteur or Gremlin.
It actually feels a little unfair to refer to the voice in my head as a mean girl. I’ve experienced a real life mean girl and she humiliated me, laughed at me, ganged up on me and conspired to make me feel small.
I don’t relate that to the voice in my head. Sure she can be loud and unkind, however, I feel her motivation is in my best interest.
I lived blissfully unaware of my Inner Critic for most of my life. It wasn’t until I trained as a Life Coach that the bubble burst – which was ultimately a good thing. Before this I believed what I was telling myself and led a relatively safe life. I enjoyed variety in my life but I wasn’t pursuing my dreams and ambitions.
My Inner Critic had no problem with me training and getting certified as a Life Coach. I have a passion for psychology and feel extremely capable in this role. However, when I decided to make a business of Life Coaching my Inner Critic has been a constant companion ever since.
Even as I write this post I have a running commentary telling me that nobody will read this far, that I’m not getting my point across very well and that nobody is interested in what I have to say. True or not, the commentary is of no help to me.
So, I created a printable worksheet which is part of my free Spring Clean Your Life program that is running through April. You can learn more about it here.
Check out the worksheet to get more acquainted with your Inner Mean Girl so you can better handle her and go after what is important to you.
Tame that Inner Critic and you’ll be surprised by the results. The trick is that you first have to recognize her. She will seduce you with reasons you should stay where you are, or make you believe you are incapable but use the worksheet to get to the truth, because your Inner Mean Girl / Critic is a little (lot) loose with the truth.
I’d love to hear how you are getting on. Come and share in the Facebook group.
Hugs, Vicky xxx